We all want the best for our children and we all have an idea of how they envision their lives to go. Normally this means for them to get good jobs, love to meet a partner, get married, buy a house and have children. We want to be smart and enjoy their work and we want them to live a full life with lots of experience, before settling. And in a perfect world, we hope that maybe do some kind of impact on the world and something changes, or write a great work.
But sometimes things do not go as planned, and sometimes their children's lives become derailed. Of course, as a parent is an extremely painful and distressing time, and can be difficult knowing what to do best.
An example is teenage pregnancy. The impact on your teenage daughter to get pregnant are far reaching and can affect almost every aspect of this ideal path of life. Your child may have to abandon education in order to care for the child, will, or the father may need to start working soon afford to start a family wants them to travel or advance in their career should be a dashed line, and is not for twenty years - when the child is their late thirties - who return to some sense of freedom. The cost is incredibly high, and there may be a simple fact that they are not ready to raise a child. Here we look at what you can do to help your child with their teenage pregnancies, and see what is the best way to react.
Your reaction
When you heard about the pregnancy, you will naturally be shocked, and you are unlikely to respond well at first. But it is always important to ensure that you meet a measured way and that you remember the most important - comfort and be there for your child. You will naturally be disappointed by what happened, and you may be shocked to know that your child is already sexually active and not using protection - but remember that everything is in the past now, and it Nothing you can do to change it. If your child becomes pregnant, then you must take things in hand and focus on support. The situation is punishment enough for them, and probably very scared and angry that their lives will change forever, they need their parents right now, what should be your first priority. Tell your child that will go well and that you love them no matter what and stay optimistic.
And remember, if they decide to go that way, then they will be bringing a new life in the world and start a family, so no matter what circumstances it is call for celebration.
Discuss the options
I hope your child tells you he has learned or what is happening from the beginning and that means you still have several options available to you. It's your job now to help your child understand the options and know the advantages and disadvantages of each. It is your decision to make and whatever your opinion on the matter, you should leave the decision they want to do and we respect that. Nobody can deny the right of a mother to keep your child or the termination of pregnancy and that is what your son is now - a mother. Make sure you have explored all options and all procedures that can be fully informed and provide your child with all the information they need. Go beyond, you will be better positioned to help and the end result will be more favorable.
At the same time, however, if the child decides not to have an abortion is necessary to make sure you understand the gravity of the selection so that it does not happen again. Abortions can be dangerous for the mother, are expensive and are morally questionable - so this is not an option for the prevention and it is important that this learning experience to make sure that her daughter is more cautious in the future. Be supportive and respectful, but they seem to be taking too lightly to make sure they understand the gravity of the situation.
Man
If your child is pregnant, meaning she had unprotected sex with someone and that means you have other potential problems that will be the man. It is important that your daughter also discusses his options with the man who has the right to be involved as a father. If you have not met the man before, so it is important that you do and you get to know them - and can help inform your decision as to whether or not to keep the baby. Is it a mature adult and responsible young people who can afford to support a family? Or is it young and reckless and ill-prepared?
If your daughter does not really know the boy, then you should consider if you want to track him down and informed - and more importantly, it will be important to have your daughter checked for STIs, especially because they can affect during pregnancy. It's not pleasant to think, but it is an important consideration that can be overlooked in light of everything else.
Having a baby: Practical considerations
If your daughter decides to go ahead with the pregnancy, then you need to think about practical implications for these at an early stage can help avoid future problems. For example, your daughter will drop out of school / work or is it going to try and finish school? Is it possible to complete its work at home? Will you be financially able to support your child as a family, and if not, you are entitled to benefits that can help you? Where else can withdraw money? And how are you involved as a grandparent? They must live in your household most likely (unless you decide to leave the fund family), then you will already be more involved, it may be normal - but you will be able to adapt the child, while your daughter goes to college? Can you? Are you ready? Is it necessary? You should also avoid exceeding the brand and make your daughter feel pushed by his mother, who can be very painful for them.
If you keep it?
All these decisions depend on the decision whether to keep it. There are many pros and cons of the decision is, and it's something that said that only they can decide. That said, you probably have a major impact on their final decision, it is important to help them decide.
The positive aspects of keeping the child is that her daughter might want to save, and depending on the distance of late pregnancy may begin to feel as connected to the girl. At the same time, if your daughter or your family have religious beliefs, then you might be forced to maintain, and you may be worried that the rest of the community might consider an abortion. Your child may even be afraid of abortion, or could, like the idea at this point to start a family - especially if the couple turn around and are in love. In all these cases, we must respect the decision of his daughter and do what I can to help. If you and your daughter can afford to take in their own homes, if they will be there to help with child care if they are in their final teenage years, and if it matures, all that best suits keep the child.
The disadvantages are, of course, your child should focus on increasing the child and that means we are forced to give up other things like travel and training, giving them less life experience. This can be very confusing for the child if they are still young at heart and RBI, and could not yet be ready to raise a child. This may be compounded by the unusual circumstances - especially if the partner is not there and still living in the house that will result in the child knows who his parents are. Economically raise a child may not be viable, and her daughter also may be afraid of giving birth and the fear of losing friends and be judged by the public as a teenage mother - it could be much faster and easier to have ended in early pregnancy and to avoid a difficult situation following 20 years has the potential to ruin many lives.
Coming to terms
So there are many pros and cons of both situations and in any case it is not desirable. As a parent it is your duty to tell everything to your child and give them lots of love and support as they make their decision. When they made their mind up you have to think about the consequences and the practical and help you make the best you can.
You also need to make peace with her decision and the new situation. Try to focus on the positive in any case - if they have another child, while large, now has a grandchild's love and support, and will probably be very happy as a new mom. You'd be surprised how a teen pregnancy can change your daughter and if she did not seem ready now, she will learn soon. And if you go to abortion, on the other, then just see an innocent mistake that will provide a significant learning curve and help you avoid similar mistakes in the future.
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